In a Vanity Fair piece Tinder and the Dawn of the “Dating Apocalypse” Nancy Jo Sales explores how the advent of the online dating apps like Tinder and Hinge have reshaped the dating culture and in particular men and women’s expectations around dating, marriage, and casual sexual encounters. An overarching theme of the piece is the utter ease with which men, who seem to dominate and dictate the sexual market, can find a casual sexual partner.
The piece accurately describes the reality that “dating apps are the free-market economy come to sex”—an economy in which men exercise most of the control over the sexual encounter. Apps like Tinder contribute to a male psychology that results in more unstable marriages, more divorces, and less long term dating. For a greater understanding of economics of sex check out this video by the Austin Institute.
Also, for a further critique of the hook-up culture and how it’s “easy sex “ actually fuels a misogynistic hookup culture that leaves a large number of women hurting and dissatisfied emotionally check out this piece by Mark Regnerus in Slate, Sex is Cheap: Why young men have the upper hand in bed even while failing in Life.
Quotes of Interest for the Vanity Fair article:
“Could the ready availability of sex provided by dating apps actually be making men respect women less? “Too easy,” “Too easy,” “Too easy,” I heard again and again from young men when asked if there was anything about dating apps they didn’t like.”
“When there is a surplus of women, or a perceived surplus of women, the whole mating system tends to shift towards short-term dating. Marriages become unstable. Divorces increase. Men don’t have to commit, so they pursue a short-term mating strategy.”
“Young women complain that young men still have the power to decide when something is going to be serious and when something is not—they can go, ‘She’s girlfriend material, she’s hookup material.’ … There is still a pervasive double standard.”
“They’re just looking for hit-it-and-quit-it on Tinder.”
“It seems like the girls don’t have any control over the situation, and it should not be like that at all…”